Below, Stark and other relationship experts share eight ways healthy couples argue differently. I don't want to move to there! or simply telling their spouse, " Hey, can we revisit this in the morning? They may be bumping heads but couples in happy, long-time relationships try their best to see the other. Show me that you're willing to stick it out, even when you want to leave. In fact, their fighting isn't a sign of a sick relationship, but a healthy one. As we've all learned from a good fight, while getting through it may be difficult and The study followed married couples from to and found that. I was the child of divorced parents and I must say that my Mom tried hard to "hold the family together", but I was truly happier when they split. There was a sense.
Happy couples in long-term relationships rarely get into knock-down, drag-out fights because they don't lower themselves to school-yard tactics: They know how to cool down. When things do get out of hand, savvy arguers know how to get a grip on their emotions. They value taking a time out, whether that means counting to 10 and taking slow, deep breaths or simply telling their spouse, "Hey, can we revisit this in the morning? When both partners are able to soothe themselves and take breaks, they're usually able to reach a resolution or agree to disagree!
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They set ground rules for arguments. It's not that long-time couples have never resorted to low blows or have said something regrettable during an argument. They have in the past -- and then they learned from the mistake. Once the emotionally charged fight ends, smart couples lay down some ground rules for arguing so it never gets out of hand again, said author and relationship expert Mario P.
The ground rules could be specific -- "We will not interrupt each other when one is giving his or her perspective" -- or more big picture: They acknowledge each other's feelings and points of view. They may be bumping heads but couples in happy, long-time relationships try their best to see the other side of the argument, Kipp said.
They give each other the benefit of the doubt. Partners who are able to have healthy and productive arguments don't jump to conclusions in the middle of fights. They aren't quick to assume their S.
According to research out of Brown Universityyou're 75 percent more likely to get divorced if a friend or close relative has already done the deed. When it's someone one more degree of separation out the friend of a friendyou're 33 percent more likely to get divorced. Researchers had this to say on the ramifications of the results: Fight at the beginning, then not a lot Psychologists like Dr. Herb Goldberg suggest that our model for relationship is backwards--we tend to expect things to go smoothly at the beginning, and for problems and conflicts to arise later.
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Goldberg argues that couples should have "rough and ragged" beginnings where they work things out, and then look forward to a long and happy incline in the state of the relationship. One of the happiest pairings for couples? Researchers hypothesize this may be because the relationship has one person who enjoys being taken care of, and one who's used to taking care of others. Know who does what when it comes to housework According to a UCLA studycouples who agree to share chores at home are more likely to be happier in their relationships.
In other words, when you know what to do and what's expected with you, you tend to be happier both yourself and with your spouse.
This might be a good thing to sit down and discuss in the new year, especially if you're newly cohabitating. Are gay--or straight and feminist In a recent study of 5, people, researchers found that gay couples are " happier and more positive " about their relationships than their heterosexual counterparts.
If you're going to be hetero, though, you're better off being feminist. The name of the study? The opposite was not true--when husbands thought they were better-looking, they weren't as happy.Weird Things All Couples Fight About
And have a lot of friends in common InFacebook released a report that analyzed 1. Couples with overlapping social networks tended to be less likely to break up--especially when that closeness included "social dispersion," or the introduction of one person's sphere to the other, and vice versa.
In other words, the best-case scenario is when each person has their own circle, but the two also overlap.